Best Bollywood Movie Ever!

India is often called the world’s other movie capital other than Hollywood, due to the sheer number of movies produced in Bollywood-the Indian film industry based in Mumbai (formerly called Bombay). The numbers of films made each year are more than 1500 on an average and in terms of statistics it has grown to $2.3billion approx.

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There are different types of movies that are produced in Bollywood, that cater to the different types of viewers and belong to the various levels of the quality meter-the good ones, not so good, the bad ones and some downright atrocious. There is commercial cinema which is loved by the masses and there is parallel cinema which is enjoyed by art lovers and contributes to art of movie making substantially if not as much in financial terms.

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To pick the best Bollywood movie ever is not an easy task as tens of thousands of films have been made since the industry started in 1913 with the production of first Indian feature film ‘Raja Harishchandra’. But some of the movies which have touched our sensibilities and hearts in some way or the other over the ages are-Mother India, Mughal-E-Azam, Guide, Sholay, Masoom, Arth, Pakeezah, Lagaan, 3 idiots, Taare zameen par, Rang de basanti, Swades and many more.

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Out of a whole lot of choicest of Indian movies that i have enjoyed watching, Chak de India is my all time favorite. It was released in 2007.  It had all the ingredients which make a movie a must watch and raise it to an all new level of films.

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The film is based on a real life incident, so it feels very inspirational as the viewer can totally relate to the struggles the characters in the movie are going through to achieve their goals in spite of the umpteen hurdles and challenges they face in their path. The narrative of the film flows smoothly throughout and lacks unnecessary diversions and tracks.

All the actors fit perfectly into their characters and play the roles as if they are born for it. Shahrukh Khan superbly dons the role of the hockey coach with his perfect mannerisms and physical attributes. It seems as if he had been coaching hockey players all his life. The way he instills confidence and team spirit in his demoralized and divided team is a great lesson to be imbibed in all spheres of our life. As the movie proceeds, one gets to watch thrilling action on the field which is very realistic. The climax is equally nail biting and the movie ends on a very positive note upholding the virtues of team work, undying human spirit and off course resilience against all odds.

Overall, this movie impressed me a lot and touched me at a deep level and became a permanent member in my unforgettable and all time favorites list.

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For latest news on Bollywood you can visit www.follo.in– the wonderful site with loads of information where you can even follow your favorite movie stars and get in touch with them. There is an app available which you can install if you want to easily access this site through your phone. There are sections like featured gallery, Bollymasala ,B20, starbuzz to tickle your entertainment buds. You can test your know how about your favorite star by taking starquiz. There is also Bolly rewardz where you can get free movie vouchers and points by following stars and get goodies signed by your favorite star in exchange of these points.

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Now, if we talk about Bollywood movies in general, there is no basic premise on which they are based. They cover the complete spectrum of emotions, sensitivities, topics, styles, techniques, genres, tastes and the like. But there are some common cliches which are repeated in lot of them. Some of these i am sharing here:

1. Hero is always good and the villain is compulsorily bad and evil. The good wins over evil ALWAYS.

Does it happen like that in the real world not always just even often ?

2. At least one hour of song and dance sequence is a must in a three hour movie, even if it is completely unrelated to the story line.

How else to you get to add multiple glitzy costumes and numerous breathtaking foreign locales in a few shots?

3.The hero single handedly beats up a whole bunch of goons even if they are double or triple his size in weight and height.

Are all heroes of Bollywood movies bestowed with superpowers?

4.Almost always the hero and heroine fall in love at first sight and then the whole movie revolves around their love at first sight.

Do all love stories in real life necessarily start by love at first sight ?

5.With just an added mustache and black sunglasses, neighbors and even cops can’t recognize a person if a character needs to disguise himself in the story.

If disguising oneself was as easy, all criminals in the real world would rest assured peacefully that they shall never be caught. After all, arranging a fake mustache and black sunglasses is not that difficult a task.

6.If a car in the film ever stops working, one solution that works 100% is to pour some water in the radiator.

Would we ever need car mechanics if this filmy trick worked as wonderfully in real life?

7. The hero constantly stalks the heroine to win her heart and almost always succeeds in doing so.

Does stalking ever work in the real world? in fact this often takes serious turns and has damaging repercussions as recently happened in a sad case in Chennai. This is one issue which film makers need to think about seriously and refrain from encouraging in any form in the movie because it has damaging effects on the youngsters  who blindly copy what is shown on screen and society is affected as whole.

Whenever a commercial movie with big names who have spend big amounts on advertising it is released, the viewers rush to watch it and it runs on house full. Mostly, people follow the mass mentality. On the other hand, when a well made movie with a message comes to the theaters, it gets a luke warm response and does not do well financially. As an audience, its high time we use discernment and appreciate the effort of movie makers who have the courage to come up with useful messages.  Movie making is a business and no producer will be ready to finance a venture which incurs loss . So, we should flock the halls to watch such movies so that their makers are rewarded in financial aspects also other than just awards so that they continue to make high quality stuff. After all, movies are a very strong medium that can be the harbingers of change in the society. This medium should be used to its best advantage other than just entertainment.

What is urgently needed is change in the common mindset!

 

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Enhance your online shopping experience with ZAPSTORE!

Now days, more and more people prefer shopping online over conventional shopping because of the numerous advantages and benefits it offers. Some of the reasons are convenience of shopping anywhere, anytime without bothering to travel long distance to the market in heavy traffic or crowded streets. This saves lot of valuable time and other resources. It takes only minutes to shop online and one can shop even at midnight lying on your comfortable couch.

Better competitive prices and discount deals are also available online. Variety of products from different sellers are available at one place. You can even shop for products from other countries sitting in your home. Also, compulsive or impulsive spending is avoided as we make well thought out purchases when we shop online.

This hassle free experience of online shopping becomes even more rewarding if we can easily compare price, features and functions of any product  from different sellers  from several online platforms before buying a product to ensure the perfect value for money. But this seems to be a very time consuming task.

Not any more!

In such a scenario ZAPSTORE comes as a saviour for us consumers. It is a one stop shop for all our shopping needs, which provides the complete market of online products curated or chosen by other shoppers at your fingertips. It is a unique shopping concept which ensures that every ZAPPER is a winner.

Zapstore.com is an e-commerce portal aimed at making online shopping more enjoyable, rewarding, fun and satisfying. It gives the consumer an option to buy the product at the price that they want to, by comparing with all the options available at different platforms, at zapstore easily and then choose the best option or deal available. Overall, Zapstore works as an Options Market where one can check all the options available online and pick the best deal.

Logistic partner support system with distributors of all major brands is well refined to make sure that the products reach the consumers promptly. The USP of the Zapstore is to enable consumers to buy the products they want at the prices they wish. It is a single platform for all the best products across e-commerce stores including Flipkart, amazon, snapdeal etc. All the products are hand picked ie chosen by other users so the products are already ‘best out of the rest’. Now the Zapstore users just have to select the ‘Best of the Best’ which they prefer.

Opening an account on Zapstore is very easy as it is very user friendly platform with clear instructions for all the steps to be taken. The store offers products of different categories ranging from technology to fashion. I selected three items which i was planning to buy since a long time but was postponing the final decision as i was confused with all the options available. But this portal is very effective in showing the price list collected from different online ecommerce sites. The display is very neat and clean with different options based on category and brands sorted out. The navigation from one site to other is very smooth and fast. The items i selected based on my requirement are:

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  1. HP 15-AF006AX  15.6 INCH LAPTOP– I selected this as its specifications completely suits my requirement. It is a quality product at great price for office work, watching movies, or surfing internet. It is also good for gaming purposes for games with enhanced graphics. The RAM can be upgraded to 8GB for superior gaming experience. Go for it if you want a gaming laptop in this price range. I t is the best deal and provides complete value for money.
  2. Zebronics Falcon wireless gamepad – this is an awesome product available at low price I was looking to buy it as the mode changing feature it offers is quite useful when you play different games. It supports all USB plug and play. It is worth every penny at this price.
  3. Apple iPhone-6: this is a phone which epitomizes elegance and excellence at its best. I selected this phone as it is powerful, efficient yet thin and comes with advanced ios 8, larger and superior high definition retina display screen which makes it a great choice to watch videos and play graphic intensive games. The 16 GB internal memory can store large amount of videos, pictures, data files. The 8 megapixel camera contains optical images stabilisation technology which is found in high end cameras, and results are blur free photographs. So,now all my photography needs can be taken care of by this phone single handedly.

You can check out more details about products  on my zapstore here….https://zapstore.com/s/Aryans

 

I am making my own store for the #BestZapStore activity at BlogAdda in association with Zapstore.

Believe in your Dreams!

Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers and the thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see the greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.

~Edmunds Lee

All of us have certain cherished dreams which we want to fulfill to the best of our abilities. We try whatever is possible to achieve them. But the path to fulfillment of our aspirations cannot be journeyed without encountering obstacles or blocks of any kind. This journey towards our goals becomes easier and hurdle free if we plan well in advance and there is an experienced well wisher to guide us at the start of this journey to boost our morale and also during the course of following the path. When we our stuck we need someone to encourage us and help us pick up our lost confidence.

One such person for me has been my maternal uncle, who has always offered inspiration and guidance for me since my childhood days. He has helped me in learning a lot of life lessons and in helping me choose my career path with clarity. When i had decided upon my dream of becoming an engineer and getting admission in a reputed engineering college to fulfill my dreams of inventing new technology which would be cost effective and useful to our nation and fellow citizens, my uncle whole-heartedly supported me and offered any advice and guidance i needed. At times, when i was lost or felt dejected, he would recount encouraging and uplifting examples to cheer me up.

Some of the pearls of wisdom he shared with me are:

  1. Believe in your dreams, no matter how impossible they seem   ~Walt Disney
  2. When you follow your dreams, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it ~Paulo Coelho, the alchemist.
  3. You have to dream before your dreams can come true ~A.P.J Abdul Kalam.
  4. The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams ~Oprah.
  5. Believe in your dreams. If you don’t who will? ~Jon Bon Jovi
  6. Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve. ~Napolean Hill
  7. Press on. Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination are alone are omnipotent ~Ray croc.
  8. You miss 100% of the shots you didn’t take ~Michael Scott
  9. Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can ~Arthur Ashe
  10. Everything you can imagine is real ~Pablo Piccaso
  11. When you reach an obstacle, turn it into an opportunity. You have the choice. You can overcome and be a winner, or you can allow it to overcome you and be a loser. The choice is yours and yours alone. Refuse to throw in the towel. Go that extra mile that failures refuse to travel. It is far better to be exhausted from success than to be rested from failure. ~ Mary Kay Ash.
  12. It’s the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting ~Paulo coelho, the alchemist.
  13. The only thing worse than starting something and failing in not starting something  ~Seth Godin
  14. There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve; the fear of failure-Paulo coelho
  15. We may place blame, give reasons, and even have excuses; but in the end, it is an act of cowardice to not follow your dreams ~Steve Maraboli

These were some of the inspiring quotes by world renowned achievers my uncle had written on a poster and put it in front of my study table so that i could read them often and feel motivated. Thus, my uncle played a very important role in guiding me and helping me along the way of following my dreams.

In a similar way, Stoodnt is platform which provides guidance and support to the students who want to fulfill their dreams of higher education in universities abroad. The expert counsellers in the panel have solutions to all the queries of students like future scope of a course in job market, hostel facility in the college, steps to succeed , which course to apply for based on individual’s aptitude, and many more insights and expert opinions.

Take the risks and follow your dreams! The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams and have the courage and conviction to achieve them.

“I am blogging about my dreams and the people who helped make them true for the #AdviceThatMattered activity at BlogAdda in association with Stoodnt.”

The Story Of A Suicide!

“In everybody’s life there’s a point of no return. And in a very few cases, a point where you can’t go forward anymore. And when we reach that point, all we can do is quietly accept the fact. That’s how we survive.”

                         ~Haruki Murakami,

 

Life is a constant struggle. No one down the ages has ever said that it would be easy. One has to pass through several trials and tribulations in the journey of life on a regular basis and overcome the hurdles to survive in this world.Humans seem to be hardwired to adapt to their circumstances and find ways to challenge any threat they face and come out victorious most often.

 

Each human has this inherent desire for living n surviving even in the hardest of circumstances and conditions.Generally, this human spirit of strength prevails and the person remains afloat in the whirlpool of life in spite of hundreds of setbacks and failures, in hope for better times ahead.

 

But sometimes, there  comes a point when all hope shatters, and one feels completely helpless and defeated in the race of life. There seems to be no solution to the problems they are facing, there is no way in sight to escape from where they are stuck.They start considering themselves as total failures. At this point, they think that only way to end their suffering  and pain is to end their lives. The thought of suicide grips them and entangles them completely.

 

To kill is not easy! and to kill one’s own self, even more so!

 

So why are they strong enough to kill themselves but not strong enough to live?

 

Is it that they have not failed, BUT, the society, the world  has failed them?

 

Such drastic steps come to mind when there is no hope left, person becomes totally hopeless. Humans need hope to live their lives and face the difficulties and hardships, in anticipation of a brighter and better tomorrow. Hope takes away the pain of today and washes away the frustration of the past regrets. Without hope, it becomes difficult to face the stark realities of life.

 

Recently i read the novel ‘THE STORY OF A SUICIDE ‘on this important issue by Sriram Ayer. In this, the stories of Hari, Charu, Sam and Mani have been narrated in a gripping style. The lives of these four youngsters are connected through a web of love, passion, revenge and deceit. The story line is powerful and the struggles of the young people have been very well verbalized through the story. The book can be read here http://www.storyofasuicide.com

It is a very good attempt to reach out to youngsters and make them understand their emotions and reactions better. After each chapter of the book, there is a information and guidance section with  how to overcome, do’s and don’t on various relevant topics like depression, heartbreak, loss, failure, harassment, sexual abuse, loneliness, complicated relationships, hurt,sadness and the proper course of action in such circumstances is suggested in a very comprehensive format. This feature is really commendable and makes the novel a self help guide. http://www.storyofasuicide.com/how-do-i-all.html
The book successfully highlights the important topics of societal prejudices and stereotyping, judgmental attitude about sexual orientation of an individual, sexual abuse stigma, harassment and lack of support system for those who are in distress.
Different chapters of the book bring forth  the struggles and hurdles the characters come across in their lives and how the society adds to making live hell for them. How Hari is judged for being a gay, Charu for being an independent minded strong girl,Mani for his poverty and lack of English know how and how Sam reacts irrationally to un-reciprocated love and  Is not society meant to have a cushioning and supporting effect for its individuals in times of need? The societal expectations and conformist attitude plays a havoc in their lives and almost  drives them insane. Once their emotions start the downward spiral towards regret,sadness, guilt or fear, their mental frame work seems to be out of control.
The human behavior and its shortcomings are nicely depicted. The book is truly a mirror to present day society and its parameters of judgement. We regularly come across similar cases in mainstream media. But raising such issues is just not enough, long term feasible solutions need to be discussed and found for such issues. This book is a strong step in such  a direction.
Some lines worth highlighting which had a deep impact on me are mentioned below

Benefits of online income tax filing !

 

We all like our income to constantly keep increasing and dream of it rising exponentially. As we reach new heights of success and thereby new levels of revenue earning, we are duty bound to file income tax returns.

A tax is a financial charge or other levy imposed upon a taxpayer( individual, institution or organisation) by a state or its representatives to fund various public expenditures. This is how wiki pedia defines tax.

The purpose of tax is to raise revenue to fund government, to enable it to carry out expenditure on economic infrastructure, military of the country, scientific research, public work and operations of the government itself. Some of it is also utilized in welfare schemes of health, education and employment generation for the poor citizens.

Tax is the main source of government revenue which is needed even for public utilities like road and bridge building, law and order maintenance and other development programs. Income tax therefore helps in the overall progress and development of the nation.

It is thus an important duty of every law abiding and country loving citizen of the nation to regularly file income tax return. There are approximately 3 crore individual tax filers in India.

Some advantages of filing your income tax return:

  1. you can use it as your standard income proof.
  2. sanctions of loans either for your dream house or higher education becomes easy and quick.
  3. trading in stocks, opening bank accounts or making any other investments becomes easy for you.
  4. it becomes easy to obtain a visa for foreign travel as most countries want to know your financial sound status before granting visa.Income tax returns come in handy to prove your financial worth.
  5. planning a financial portfolio becomes easy.

It is important to file your returns timely and regularly to maximize your tax refunds.

With the help of information technology and internet, filing income tax has become an easy task which was earlier considered  cumbersome by most of us. Now transactions which were once time consuming can be done quickly and easily.

Thanks to the adoption of information technology by Indian income tax department, e-filing of income tax is not a big or difficult task anymore. It involves easy step by step procedures which are simple to execute.

Some of the benefits of e-filing of income tax returns are:

  1. It gets filed in a timely manner, without any undue hurry just before the deadline approaches. E-filing transfers your tax return documents instantaneously to income tax department. There are no chances of these important documents getting misplaced, forgotten or lost unlike the earlier paper based system.
  2. No chance of submitting wrong info related to name or income details as corrections can be made as many times as needed after filling the details before final submission.
  3. E-filing is cost effective and hassle free. You don’t need to pay heavy fees to get your documents prepared by professionals.
  4. Easy and accurate calculation is possible for knowing the taxable income. You can thus find optimum plans to maximize your deductions, lowering your taxable income by great margin .This puts in a lower tax bracket and helps in saving a big amount.
  5. You can double check the details like PAN number, bank account numbers and address and calculations can be verified again and again.
  6. Tax refund is fast and easy. When you file return online, often you get tax refund directly into your bank account within a month.
  7. You can view your tax credit and file it online from anywhere, anytime. You can even track the processing status in real time.

E-filing is completely DIY (do it yourself) with the easy steps to be followed and user friendly approach. If you still need some assistance in filing your income tax return electronically, you can take the help of platforms like H&R Block which have experienced tax experts on their panel who guide you at each step and are available on chat for solving all your queries. They have tied up with 300+ corporates and e-filed more than 3 lakh returns with 9/10 customer satisfaction score.

Keep these documents handy when e-filing your tax return:

  1. Form 16- This is your tax credit statement as well as your salary certificate.It has two parts- part A (contains TDS details from your salary )and part B( contains salary details like allowances, basic salary, deductions under chapter vi A etc.) You can upload your form 16 directly or fill it manually making sure you don’t miss out on any info.
  2. Tax credit statement 26 A – Form 26 A contains details of -tax deducted from tax payers income,tax collected,advance tax etc.
  3. Investment details- details of ASF,NSC,ULIP, UTI,PPF,Equity saving schemes,ELSS etc.
  4. Interest income details- interest earned on saving bank account,PPF account, FD etc.
  5. Medical or life insurance details-The premium you pay for these are allowed as deduction from your income.
  6. Bank account details- It is compulsory to mention all your active bank accounts as on date of e-filing the tax return. Details like account number,IFSC of your bank branch and type of account should be provided.

So, choose the easy, secure, accurate and quick way of filing your income tax return online and remain in the good books of financial institutions and fulfill your duties of being a good citizen.

 

 “I’m taking the #TaxPledge to file IT returns with the easy Income Tax efiling option from H&R Block at BlogAdda.

 

Filing of tax returns made easy!

Along with rights, always come duties ! Most of us are very excited and particular about our rights but often ignore our duties, more so the duties we have towards our nation. One such important duty is to file our income tax returns, and that too on time. But it is common knowledge that income tax filing is not taken seriously in our country. Although every one is aware of the fundamental rights bestowed upon them as a citizen of this country but most of the duties a citizen has towards the country remained unfulfilled here.

Income tax filing is not done by vast percentage of the population in India due to ignorance of its benefits and also because it is considered cumbersome and time consuming. It is also often seen as an unnecessary burden which is best avoided.

But the actual truth is way different than this!

Income tax returns hold great importance in your financial life and are helpful in myriad ways. ITR comes handy in various circumstances like-

  1. if you want to apply for a loan be it for house, vehicle, business expansion or the like.
  2. in better planning your financial portfolio like share investments, fixed deposit, bonds etc and how much amount should be parked in each for better fruitful returns.
  3. if you plan to apply for a visa to visit a foreign country as a tourist, student, or for business purposes.

Filing income tax returns is a major responsibility we have towards our nation and overall growth of the country including the economic growth depends on it in more ways than one. Income tax is a big source of revenue generation for the country’s government. This revenue or fund is used by the government for building and improving infrastructure in the country like building bridges, research institutes, roads, dams etc. This income is also utilized by the government for welfare projects like midday meals, free education and medical facilities for the poor, shelter for homeless and needy, employment schemes for below poverty line citizens etc. 

Income tax returns also are a measure of a country’s  progress across various fields as the rising income tax shows corresponding rise in the income growth.

So, considering all the benefits of filing income tax returns, we all should pledge to do our duty and strive to become better and worthy citizens of our great nation and with online filing of tax available it is now an easy task. We can even file income tax with a few clicks in a couple of minutes with e-filing platforms like H&R Block.

E-filing of income tax return is a great option as it is :

  1. Easy and non cumbersome. It is very simple, convenient and user friendly. You can register online on the INCOME TAX INDIA WEBSITE from any part of India through your computer, tablet or phone to file the form.
  2. It is very quick and non time consuming. you don’t need to travel long distances in heavy traffic to tax offices or your adviser’s office or stand in long lines to file return.If you submit your return online on regular basis, the statement comes pre-filled with earlier information like salary details, investments, fixed revenue sources etc. Thus it saves lot of valuable time.
  3. It is secure and completely confidential. The information is guarded through high grade encryption systems.
  4. Easy accessibility and user friendly. You can check and recheck your information anytime from anywhere according to your convenience and make changes as many times you want until the final deadline of tax filing. It is not as cumbersome to make changes as in traditional methods of tax filing.
  5. It is eco -friendly as it is paper less. we can thus rest assured that we have helped in preserving trees at some level by doing our bit.
  6. Fast and hassle free Refund of excess tax. The calculation of excess tax is easy if done online and its recovery is prompt and easy. So, no more constant following of this matter and reduced stress.
  7. Tax estimation is easy, accurate and faster. After you fill in the required inputs, tax estimation can be easily calculated to find payment of tax due and monthly payments can be adjusted.

Internet statement of tax return incorporates all categories of income that is taxable,  deductible expenses and investments eligible for tax reduction, just like paper statement.

Some important documents needed while e-filing tax returns are:

  1. Form 16-issued by the employer.
  2. Form 16 A- Tax deducted by banks on interest
  3. Form 26 AS
  4. Bank statements
  5. Home loans and/or HRA receipts
  6. Documents of investments for tax saving and few others depending on your individual field of work.

 

If you still feel that you need assistance in e-filing of returns, tool like H&R Block is a great option as there are tax experts on their panel to guide you and provide help and solutions to all your queries. Their advice helps in maximum tax savings with optimization of your tax liabilities based on your individual situations.

Their in depth knowledge is also  a great advantage to individuals with capital gains, dual taxation, ESOP workings, global income,sale of foreign shares, and many similar complicated issues. They also provide year long access to your adviser, your account page and documents that help in planning taxes in better way with guarantee of accuracy and confidentiality.

H&R Block is the largest consumer tax filing company in the world with 2.5 crore clients served with 9/10 customer satisfaction score. It is a self guide wizard but quick call facility is also available for support.It is definitely a rewarding association and  a great step forward in fulfilling your duty to compulsorily file income tax returns.

 

 “I’m taking the #TaxPledge to file IT returns with the easy Income Tax efiling option from H&R Block at BlogAdda.

 

Teach By Example To Reduce Gender Prejudices In Gen Next !

For eons, women have been told to live their lives and behave in a certain way. There is immense societal pressure on them. Times have definitely evolved, lot of progress has been made in diverse fields which have brought about tremendous changes in the way we live and function but the mindsets in regards to gender equality have not changed at such faster rate. Inequality still exists in most cultures and communities around the world at some or the other level in all spheres of life -education, religion, domestic front and many more. Women are considered below par in some aspects even after the progress they have made in all fields.

To bring up a child in the way he should go, travel that way yourself once in a while ~Josh Billings

In highly patriarchal Indian society, girls are often discriminated against on the pretext of following tradition and culture. Preference is given to son’s education and daughter is made to learn domestic chores. According to statistics available through a survey by NGO  Akshara, 41% girls drop out of school by 8th class. Even if she  gets educated and starts working to earn for the family, she is expected to be proficient in domestic chores and shoulder the complete household responsibilities alone without expecting any help from other family members.

Society at large has certain fixed stereotypes about the role and behavior of women, which are highly prejudiced. These are regressive and haven’t undergone any modification since ages. The need of the hour is to modify these believes to the core so as to change the mindset of a much larger section of society at a deeper level.

These changes need to start from our homes as a’ home ‘is the basic structural unit of any society. If we want our Gen Next to believe and practice gender equality we have to start educating them about it in their formative years. The work has to be started from now itself.Then only can we hope to see positive changes towards reduced gender prejudices in our future citizens.

Children LEARN What They See and What They LIVE !

We need to change our perspectives on raising kids by adopting and following progressive and relevant views.

So what is the right approach to teach our gen next about gender inequality ?

I feel we have to develop and practice a multi-pronged approach for our hopes to come to fruition in this aspect. First of all, children should be helped to understand about the wrong notions of’ division of labor ‘in our homes and society. They should be made to realise that this is not acceptable and just in an educated and cultured society. They should know that this is wrong and not normal.

Then, there should be a constant effort to encourage equality at all levels in home as well as outside the home- in school, parks etc. Children follow what they observe ; so we have to start sharing the work load of domestic chores in our households equally to set a good example in front of them. We should shake off our limiting and outdated beliefs and behavior.

The World Is Changed By Our Example Not By Your Opinion !

Children should be given small home tasks like dusting, making sandwiches or lemonade, putting laundry in washing machines without any differentiation based on their gender.

Daughters should be empowered from early childhood itself so that they develop the confidence to challenge inequality in the world around them.

We should strive to rear our sons in such a way that they understand and follow the correct approach to become the role models of gender equality we hope to see in our future generations.

It is very important to teach the young children about the inherent prejudices and gender injustices in our society, so that they start their adult lives with the right perspectives on gender equality.

Our behavior should be such that it inspires our  gen next and also those around us to happily emulate our example. We need to develop a strong sense of conviction in our thoughts and believes so that no amount of back talking, ridicule or the fear of being laughed at, is able to sway us from our chosen path.

By taking this path breaking initiative of share the load, blogaada and ariel have shown us the way, it is our duty to follow this path sincerely to bring about true and progressive changes in our society.

 

I am taking part in the #ShareTheLoad Challenge with Ariel and Aksharaat BlogAdda.

Share The Load to Reduce Gender Prejudices in Gen Next!

The prejudices of gender discrimination are deep rooted in our society. There is some improvement in urban house holds regarding the division and sharing of tasks at home but generally it is still considered the responsibility of the women folk of the house. The scenario is even worse in the rural or less educated segments of society. Right from childhood, the children get to see gender inequality in their homes and in the society at large, they thus form gender stereotypes in their minds which are highly incorrect in this modern progressive world, where gender equality is not just a matter of choice but an urgent need of the hour.

We need to modify the image of stereotypical work sharing in house holds where a girl is understood to be the one performing tasks like cooking and cleaning while boys are prepared for a life of earning the livelihood for the family. This distorted image results in developing a mindset in children which is detrimental to the true development of their overall personality making them fit to be the global citizens in the future who qual respect for th the genders and who value respect for everyone without any underlying prejudices.

We should formulate a plan on how to teach our kids the basic lessons of gender equality, which are best learned starting from home.

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From early childhood, boys should be encouraged to help their mothers just like their sisters do, in the house work. Parents can start with small tasks like serving water or refreshments to the guests, laying out the table for dinner or hanging out clothes to dry.They should be appreciated for their efforts regardless of the mistakes they might make initially. This will instill confidence in them to do such tasks own and also the concept of gender equality will get ingrained in them to the core. They will not look down with scorn or indifference upon household chores as being outside their domain and responsibility even when they grow into adults.

To reduce gender prejudices in gen next, we need a particular targeted approach. It should be our collective mission to raise kids who believe in gender equality, not just in their homes but also in the outside world.They should be made to learn that, in this modern era, no job is gender specific anymore. It is said that best way to teach kids is to teach them through example. So, the  role of fathers is of paramount importance to rear gender sensitive kids in the family. They should share the house work load with their wives, moms and sisters at home and set a good example for children to follow. Children learn the fastest through observation.

These basic ethics learned by children in their growing – up formative years play a vital role in their personality development and the values they will uphold in future. This phase will decide what they will stand for in their adult life.The right set of values becomes a permanent fixture in their mental realms.

The change should start right now to develop future generations for whom gender inequality is a strange concept. The children who see equality in their homes now, will bring up their own kids in a way where gender discrimination will be an entirely unthinkable, unfathomable and alien issue.

This way, we can nip the prejudice of yester -years and backward mindsets in the bud stage itself. This will ensure a long term solution to this problem of gender prejudices.

The progressive initiative of #sharetheload  taken up by Blogadda, Ariel and Akshara is a major step in the right direction to harbinger a positive change in the society.

I am taking part in the #ShareTheLoad Challenge with Ariel and Aksharaat BlogAdda.

 

 

 

 

 

Share The Work Load !

” Our horizons are shaped by what we know others have actually done”

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“Time for change, Time to restart, Time to conquer, That time is now.”

 

Most men have the mindset that house chores are not their job and should be done by the women of the house.

Laundry, cooking and making the bed are all jobs either left undone or to the women in the house and the typical man only learns to use the washing machine after the age of 24, found a survey of more than 2000 men over the age of 30.

 

Society assumes that it is women’s responsibility to spend many more hours than their counterparts doing unpaid house work. The gender imbalance is sill alive and thriving in spite of so much progress and advancements all around. Women still shoulder most of the burden of household tasks. There isn’t much willingness from men to contribute.

 

With changing times, when women are sharing equal responsibilities in all spheres of life, to expect them to be solely responsible for and shoulder the household chores is very unfair.

Now, is the right time to take a stand against this gender inequality and bring about a paradigm shift in Indian households. It is very important to break the stereotypes and prejudices prevalent in the society regarding gender roles.

 

Before trying to change the society, one should try to change one’s own self; so i decided to take up this challenge of sharing the load of house chores by participating in #LaundryGoesOddEven activity along with Blogadda and Ariel Matic. It is always better to practice what  you preach.

 

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The weight of house work is real and heavy. You need to divide the house responsibilities equally with your partner. I decided to help my wife in doing the chores at home as she also leads a hectic life.

Ariel Matic with the new OddEven calendar came in handy to divide the chores equally between us as we decided to share the laundry job on alternate days. For the first time in the history of the world, the Ariel Matic pack comes with an odd even calendar, this makes the division of laundry job  easy and convenient to remember.

The pack also also comes with easy guidelines with steps to follow to do the task easily. There are added tips to avoid follies to ensure the good results even for the inexperienced ones.

 

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As i embarked on my journey, technology proved to be a great enabler with advanced washing machines available nowadays. I was able to do my share of the task very easily as I had technology and ariel matic at my disposal. The new Ariel ensures that the stains vanish easily and the clothes come out clean and fresh. In fact, i really enjoyed doing the laundry as the fragrance of Ariel is so refreshing.

It is so easy and effective to use, that even a novice like me was able to achieve remarkable results and laundry i washed turned out as good as new. Off course, on the alternate days which were marked for my wife in the odd even calendar, she did an equally good job. So it was truly a Miya-Biwi ka kamaal.

 

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By splitting the chores, we were able to reduce time spend on house work and thus were able to spend much more quality time together which in turn strengthened our relationship, making both of us happy.

I also noticed that my wife looked more relaxed whereas earlier, she was always in a hurry mode, stressed about the chores to be completed at home. Seems, she had too much to do on her hands. Now she was more calm as I was there  along with our mate Ariel Matic to lend her a helping hand and ease away some of her burdens.

After noticing the changes, this activity has brought in our relationship dynamics, i am looking forward to learning some more chores like cooking to help and assist my wife and ALSO, learning something new is always beneficial to our self development as an individual.

 

So, to encourage a balanced household, let us change the gender bias norms to bust the stereotypes, that laundry is only a women’s chore. All men should contribute equally in the basic household chores that make life comfortable. Let us help our wive, mom or sister around the house and bring balance to the gender inequality within the family dynamics and build a strong foundation for content family members and happy homes.

 

Sometimes, the stereotypes of the society have to be broken to live your life by your own choice to usher in positive changes. It is a big challenge, no doubt, but just stop worrying on who talks what, about you; who doesn’t accept you. If you really care for your near and dear ones, live life on your terms and live it well!!

 

‘I am taking part in the #LaundryGoesOddEven Challenge by Ariel India at BlogAdda.’

 

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FESTIVAL OF COLORS- HOLI !

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As the festival of colors- Holi approaches every year in March i get all excited as this is the most vibrant festival of our country filled with loads of fun and frolic which spreads good cheer and happiness all around. It has always been my favorite festivals amongst the many festivals we celebrate in India. As you all know there are dozens of festivals that are celebrated in India; this is why it is called the land of festivals.

Off course the most attractive and enchanting thing about holi for me are the colors- the different hues of all the shades of rainbow can be seen every where during holi- in markets, on pavement shops selling brightly colored holi caps, water guns and gulal.

I think it is these beautiful array of colors, spread all around and the cheer they bring about in everyone’s heart and mind is what makes holi the favorite festival of kids of our country. All kids play it with great enthusiasm irrespective of their religion, caste or social standing. There is no difference for them while applying colors. Their only motto is to completely paint the other person in all possible shades. We adults get to relive our childhood days through the fun shared in this festival and revive all the wonderful memories of days gone by.

I particularly remember the holi I used to play at my native place with my grand parents and numerous cousins. Almost all the uncles and aunts living in distant places made it a point to come to our ancestral home during holi. I felt, the more the number of people gathered more would be the enjoyment. The actual preparations would start around a week in advance.

 

The best part was, we didn’t use any synthetic colors for playing holi; instead we collected tesu flowers ( yellowish orange colored fragrant flowers which are abundantly found growing in that season in north Indian region) and soaked them in water for a couple of days to prepare a color concentrate which could be diluted with more water to play holi on the day of the actual festival. The greatest advantage of using this color was that it was not harmful to the skin, eyes or hair as it was completely natural and herbal.As the flowers carried a beautiful soothing fragrance, the whole atmosphere would be filled with nice scent when colored water was thrown on each other during holi. This was a real feast for my olfactory senses.

Talking of feast, my mom and aunts would get busy preparing delicacies like gujias, chiwra, wadas, days in advance. Some of us elder kids were allowed to help in shaping the gujiyas which is an art in itself. We felt as if we had accomplished a big feat if our gujiya turned out in good shape and would display it to other cousins and relatives as if it was a hard earned medal.

On the eve of holi festival, holika dahan (sacred bonfire) would be performed at a big ground where all the neighbors and extended family members would gather together. This was a religious ritual where certain mantras were chanted and hymns sung making the experience very spiritual and pious. It symbolises the victory of good over evil, thus imparting important live lessons to all of us, especially the youngsters. We felt encouraged to follow the right path in life, no matter how hard the circumstances.

On the eve before the festival, we kept everything ready for the next day of non stop fun before sleeping so that we could indulge in revelry as soon as we woke up. But my most cherished memory is of the naughty prank we would play on our sleeping cousins during night itself; that was making mustache on their face with kajal (kohl pencil) or lipstick . We used to have a whale of time doing this…the hardest part was to control our laughter during the drawing lest they woke up. The whole house would crack up on seeing their cartoonish faces the next morning. The unsuspecting victims would be at a perpetual loss to understand what was eliciting such strange reaction in which ever room they entered. The mystery was solved for them only when they saw themselves in the mirror. Some younger ones, would get the shock of their life on seeing their own unrecognizable vistas in the mirror and get scared on encountering the stranger in the mirror 🙂

 

No one would get offended as motto of holi is #bura na mano holi hai. Mischief is allowed during this festival. Soon after stuffing ourselves with the delicacies, we would gather our colors, water balloons and water guns and  apply coconut oil on our skin and hair to avoid any damage and to make the task of removing color after holi easier. And also, as the season is changing during this time, application of coconut oil is good for our body systems according to ayurveda.

We would go out in groups to our friends’ house and soak them in color to our heart’s content. In each house, there would be plates full of dahi wadas, chats and glasses full of cool thandai kept ready for us to recharge our battery before we attacked  another group of friends with our colors. It seemed our energy reserves on holi day were beyond getting exhausted. We enjoyed the freedom of fun and mischief for along time and didnot stop till we were called by adults to do so, who were probably scared that we might catch a cold in our soaked clothes. But for us, there were no worries, only  unstoppable fun and feast with friends and family. As the festival came only once a year, we waned to make the most of this time.Those are some of the memories i completely cherish whenever i go down memory lane. If i could have my way, i would have holi more often.

As the evening approached, and we had rested after taking the bath for removing layers of colors, the atmosphere would get reverberated with the sound of drums(dhols). It was now time for some dhol dance where we danced away  with friends and cousins without a care in the world and enjoyed to the fullest.

Now we have to play it with some responsibility. As their is scarcity of water everywhere these days, it would be best to play dry holi to save water. It would be inhuman to waste precious water for our fun when scores of others are struggling even to get drinking water. I would request everyone to play their part at individual level to address this issue.

Please use herbal colors to play holi as they are safe for us as well as for the environment. chemical colors cause water pollution and are very harmful for ecological balance.

 

 

“I’m pledging to #KhulKeKheloHoli this year by sharing my Holi memories atBlogAdda in association with Parachute Advansed.”

 

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